First Dates will Never be the Same

The name is the same but the game has dramatically changed.  First dates have taken on a life of their own. Whether a website, a person, or fate bring two people together face-to-face, there is a wealth of information we can learn about a person before stepping onto that first date.

In 1997, I went to a party and met an attractive, smart guy named Joseph. Joseph and I chatted for a while so I gave him my number. When he called, one of the first things he asked me was,

What would you say if I told you I knew things about you?

I was speechless. My body was rigid.

What? What do you know about me?

He replied, unconcerned:

I know where your brother lives. I know your father’s name and what he does. And I know your address.

This was my first introduction to how creepy the world of the internet could be. I didn’t go out with him. He had freaked me out. I didn’t realize that it was only the beginning of the amount of information someone might be able to discover about me without my choosing to share it with them.

I recently Googled LOL as its use and misuse is on my mind regularly (see my previous blog post about LOL for one of my rants) and discovered a list of rules regarding social media etiquette. # 17 sparked this blog post.

17. Don’t bother going on first dates anymore. Skip right to the second or third date. Why? Because if I have your full name, I will Google you, Facebook you, check you out on Tumblr, read your tweets, and see what your favorite YouTube videos are. The only thing you can learn about people on a first date is how good they are at pretending like they don’t already know everything about you.¬†Read More

The new world of dating makes it difficult to allow relationships to develop and grow naturally. I suggest that potential mates avoid spending vast amounts of time learning about one another prior to connecting in person. It removes the mystery. It sterilizes potential chemistry. It changes the rules of the game.

I miss the good ole days.

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